What is love?

Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection ("I love my mother") to pleasure ("I loved that meal"). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another". It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one's self or animals.

Ancient Greeks identified four forms of love: kinship or familiarity (in Greek, storage), friendship (Philia), sexual and/or romantic desire (Eros), and self-emptying or divine love (Agape). Modern authors have distinguished further varieties of romantic love.Non-Western traditions have also distinguished variants or symbioses of these states. This diversity of uses and meanings combined with the complexity of the feelings involved makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, compared to other emotional states.

Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.

Love may be understood as a function to keep human beings together against menaces and to facilitate the continuation of the species.

Be the role model

All the world’s a stage” and you are your child’s main attraction. From the youngest of ages your children are constantly watching (and eventually imitating) what you are doing. Like it or not you are a role model not only for parenting, but for being a partner, a head of family, a part of a community. Performance pressure, maybe a bit, perfection, definitely not. It’s more a matter of consciously creating behavioral good habits. You undoubtedly already know what not to do—watch your language, your anger, any violence – but here are some “what to dos” that can help your kids grow into the adults you want them to be:
Broadcast your emotions. You come home from work tired and irritable and find yourself snapping at your kids to pick up their toys–Now!—as soon as you hit the door. Rather than being reactive (and explosive), be responsible and be proactive. As soon as you walk in, announce that you are tired and irritable and need a half hour to chill out before dinner. By labeling your emotions your teaching your children to do the same; by taking responsibility for your feelings, your children don’t have to worry that they are always the cause of your moods or that they need to always walk on eggshells around you.

Apologize and explain. And if you did in fact snap at them about the toys or found yourself slipping into a lecture / rant with your teenage daughter rather than listening to what she was saying, mop up. Apologize for the snapping or the ranting, and without making excuses, help them understand you and what makes you tick: “I’m sorry I yelled at you about the toys as soon as I got home, but I was tired and cranky and should have taken a mommy time-out instead.” “I’m sorry I got so wound up and didn’t listen, but I guess I started feeling really worried when you described how hard school has been for you.” Again you are showing your children how to take responsibility for your emotions and behaviors, as well as how to be self aware and communicative.
Show your kids how you make up. All couples have arguments from time to time and strong emotions can leave especially younger children rattled. You need again explain and let them know that it is not about them or their fault.
But equally important is seeing how you both make up. This includes your adult-adult apology, the adult problem-solving conversation (complete with compromises), the make-up hug. This is how your children will learn that problems are something disagreeing adults can approach together, that talking and seeking solutions, rather than endlessly fighting about or sweeping problems under the rug are the mature ways of running a relationship and life.
Create couple time. While they may not like staying with the babysitter, seeing you set aside time to be together as couple teaches children that relationships are not only about taking care of children, working, or leading parallel lives, but keeping the relationship renewed by making time as a couple important.
Show affection. While sex is behind closed doors, affection shouldn’t be. Even though partners may differ in their comfort around displays of affection, the pat on the back, kiss on the cheek, the snuggle on the couch are not only helping children feel relax and safe, but teaching them ways adults can stay connected.
Create traditions and rituals. Children love the predictable; creating and being excited about family traditions and rituals not only help bind the family, but show your children the ingredients for doing exactly that.
Show how you reach out and consider others. Let them know when it’s time to make a birthday card for your sister. Have them help make and bring brownies to the new neighbors. Remind them that it is Sunday night and time to call up grandma. Help your children see how you keep ties with those you know and reach out to those you don’t.
Welcome different people into your home. There is the idea that if you want to teach children about peace, let them meet a diversity of people in your home. By doing this they are not only exposed to and learn to become more comfortable around people who are different from them, but they instinctively take in the values of openness, generosity, tolerance and trust.
Put your values into action. If you believe in political action, take your kids with you when you go vote or help campaign for candidates. If you strong religious beliefs, share not only what you believe and make sure your children participate with you.
Again, it is not what you say that children remember, but what you do. Let them see how your values and priorities shape your life.
There you have it, some ideas to get you started; feel free to add your own. Once again, perfection isn’t required. Becoming the role model you want to be is about clear intentions, about committing yourself to emotional responsibility and sensitivity, having a willingness to actively solve relationship problems. It’s about taking a proactive, rather than reactive or passive, stance towards creating a family life and personal life that represents who you are, and one that leaves room for change and growth and even mistakes. Don’t pressure yourself to do a all-at-once-make-over; instead decide on changes and habits you want to incorporate into your everyday life, and take them one step at a time. You can’t do it wrong.

How hard would you fight for what you believe in

 It doesn’t matter how many people are with you neither does it matter if you are alone nor if people are against you for you to effect some changes in your life and become successful in life. 

The most important thing is that you do not compromise your ability for anything, initially it will definitely not be rosy you would have a lot of rivals those you step on their toe and those that step on yours too. Everyone would expect you to still be the same person you had always been, if you compromise you would still be in the same level you had always been.

Therefore take that bold step forget about who is with you, who is against you, or if you are alone. The truth remains that the way to success leads to several enemies along the road; they are not just enemies because you hurt them but because they have seen the future and they would never allow you to get to that destination and be above them rather they prefer you to be in same position with them.

Note that those people that left you at the initial position of your struggling, those that hated you and those who fought with you would definitely come back to rejoice with you when you finally succeed. So start that project you had wanted to start, effect those changes you want in your life, take that decision without compromise you had always wanted to take, surly you would come out with flying colors.     

 

 

 

 

why masturbate?

The history of masturbation describes broad changes in society concerning the ethics, social attitudes, scientific study, and artistic depiction of masturbation over the history of human sexuality.
The sexual stimulation of one's own genitals has been interpreted variously by different religions, the subject of legislation, social controversy, activism, as well as intellectual study in sexology. Social views regarding masturbation taboo have varied greatly in different cultures, and over history.

Immanuel Kant regarded masturbation as a violation of the moral law. In the Metaphysics of Morals (1797) he made the a posteriori argument that 'such an unnatural use of one's sexual attributes' strikes 'everyone upon his thinking of it' as 'a violation of one's duty to himself', and suggested that it was regarded as immoral even to give it its proper name (unlike the case of the similarly undutiful act of suicide). He went on, however, to acknowledge that 'it is not so easy to produce a rational demonstration of the inadmissibility of that unnatural use', but ultimately concluded that its immorality lay in the fact that 'a man gives up his personality … when he uses himself merely as a means for the gratification of an animal drive'.

The 18th-century philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau saw masturbation as equal to 'mental rape', and discussed it in both Émile and Confessions. He argued that it was the corrupting influence of society that led to such unnatural acts as masturbation and that humans living a simple life amidst nature would never do such things.

Boys and young men who nevertheless continued to indulge in the practice were branded as "weak-minded

The right people the right you

Have you ever wondered the reason you most times find it difficulty to accomplish some projects that you ought to  have accomplish long time ago? have you thought of the reason you are still in the same spots? Do you know the reason your brain is static that it sometimes can not reason properly or remember things easily? Well I think you should check the people around you because the people around you determines how organized or disorganized your life will be. 

I remember a girl called Naomi who was very vibrant, intelligent and talented in various ways, she use to be the center of peoples heart every where she went, but all these attributes turned into a different story entirely when she lost her parents to an auto crash which lead to her living with a relative. This relative of hers showed her another side of life which she never knew existed, A positive life? off course not,  she faced a lot of challenges along the line and one of these challenges she faced was discrimination, she is often seen as an out cast. This in some way disorganized that beautiful life she once had because she started seeing herself as an out cast, one without value, and the worst of all became inferior. This made her not to have any stable relationship with anyone.Years went by she grow into a matured beautiful young lady, faced with the societal challenges and low self esteem, within she has the well withal to face these challenges but the way to go about it is what the problem is. She knows what to say but lacks composure, and is often scared of what the other persons reaction would be, all the time she prefers to satisfy other people to her own dissatisfaction and these often leads to disrespect to her most times with these she adopted the choice of confronting  any challenge through aggression, which left her with being a loner because no body wants to associate with an aggressive person. This some how affected her reasoning some how because she sees everyone that comes across her as cruel, and her sense of reasoning became too poor. Her life became disorganized instead of organized.

There are a lot of people who are faced with challenges a lot more terrible than Naomi's, though the possibility of avoiding it may be difficult but as individuals we should try to associate with people who support our dreams, people who feel what we feel, and understand where we are and were we are going.should in case anyone finds themselves in Naomi's kind of challenge do try these six itemized below

1. Develop strong heart, mind and a though skin
2. Do not accept that anyone is better than you
3. Keep doing what you believe in
4. Avoid thinking about what people must have said to you
5. Do not carry over any anger.
6. Avoid jealousy and envy of any kind. 

Then if you want to have the right "YOU" do a personal assessment of the people that surround you each day as stated below

1. Get a pen and a paper
2. Write the names of all the people that surround you each day
3. List there characters
4. List things you discourse on a daily basis
5. List what values they had added to your life ever since you know them

Anyone that does not qualify to your expectation, kindly find a way to do away with them. 

I leave you with this word "try and surround yourself with people who are positive and are ready to support your dreams when you do this there would not be only the right you but also the sky will be your beginning.